Creating Emotional Resilience in a Multidimensional World
Recovering from Unresolved Complex Trauma
NO child chooses to experience child sexual abuse/ neglect /emotional abuse, whether it is physical, emotional, sexual, mental, or spiritual. Children are too young to understand the impact that this may have on their lives and how this will affect them through into adulthood. Its an ADULTS RESPONSIBILITY to create a nurturing safe place that children will thrive in.
If sexual abuse / neglect, emotional / spiritual abuse occurs during a child’s developmental years, the child’s struggles with a sense of who they are and how they fit into the world. Their whole personality, self-esteem, confidence, spirit, optimism about life, carefree spirit, innocence, and belief in fairness, may be severely altered, possibly for the rest of their life.
This is especially true if the child is left to deal with the effects of the abuse alone, without any intervention or therapeutic help for many of their developmental years.
A child’s brain is not developed and they see through their world view glasses and develop beliefs (about themselves and the world around them), life skills patterns – to survive in an adults world. This also includes children having parents with mental health issues, drug and alcohol issues or who may have experience childhood trauma.
- Anxiety and fears
- Boundaries – struggling with boundaries within friendships and relationships – setting safe limits with others (struggling to say no)
- Issues parenting own child
- Relationship issues – family/ friends / partner
- Depression and thoughts of suicide
- Self harming – struggle to deal with painful emotions related to past abuse
- Sense of powerlessness
- Low sense of self worth
- Isolation – sense of not fitting or belonging, struggling to reach out when needs support
- Violence to self and others
- Guilt, shame
- Loss of memory
- Substance abuse – alcohol / drug use
- Eating disorders
- Anger issues
- Violence towards self and others
- Clinging and being extremely dependent on others
- Trust issues
- Splitting / disassociation – not feeling present within your body
- Sexual Issues – Sexual or emotional promiscuity – sexual orientation
If you are an adult survivor of child abuse in any form and are experiencing any of the following, you deserve some support to explore, own and reclaim your life:
A key aspect of the healing journey is learning about the psychological impact of the past abuse and the unhealthy patterns it may have created in your current way of being. It helps to clarify why you have struggled for so long. Now you can choose how you want to move forward.
The first step is saying to yourself – “I want things to change”.
Whilst many hesitate to reach out for support and understanding of their past childhood abuse, it is really important to note that you have survived. (possibly experiencing old thoughts and patterns of not being good enough or maybe no one cares).
By recognizing that the survival skills patterns, ways of dealing with emotions learnt as a child may be affecting your sense of self and your way of relating and being in the world, you can choose where the path leads into your future. It doesn’t matter how long ago the abuse took place. If the affects are still felt today, it is never too late to do something about it.
Now, you can choose how you want to work through and release unresolved issues from your past. You can recognize old patterns that helped you get through until now – but now you recognize they are now longer supporting you and you want to develop healthy relationships – not only with yourself but with family and friends.
Maybe you want more in your life – well now is the time to say -Yes NOW IS The Time.
Designing our lives is like working on a Masterpiece – full of colour and experience –
creating one brush stroke at a time.
You have the right to healthy relationships, and much more. Now YOU can move into a future of your choosing. It is possible to heal and move on – reclaiming, re-framing your life, and building upon the innate strengths that kept you going through the tough times, as you discover and enjoy a sense of connectedness and satisfaction in your life.
Within the session, we will explore (not all in one session)
- Self-care / self-nurture vs sabotage
- Exploration of ownership of the issue and possible change
- Building and creating healthy relationships – including boundaries
- Discovery and ownership of old patterns, beliefs and thoughts and behaviours
- The possibility of positive change and what that would feel and look like
- mental health emotional well being – building emotional resilience
- Resources and other support services if you need them
- and lots more