Parenting teens in a multidimensional world can be challenging – they relate across so many media devices and have developed new ways to communicate. Times and values have changed yet the core need for a young person to belong and to feel okay with themselves will always be there no matter the generation.

Q- how do you relate to your child, if you were to look through your teenager’s worldview glasses – what would you see?

Q- What could you do differently to develop or deepen the relationship you have with your teenager?

Q- What support do you feel they need and what would support would help them – look like through their worldview glasses?

It takes a village to raise a child – people with the same sense of values and core beliefs.

Sounds simple yet our teenagers when at school and within the community, they see so many different parenting styles and values The teenage years can be a complex journey and bring unique challenges for each young person as they try to sort out who they are, who their friends are, and how they fit in the world. They have their own worldview – a way of trying to sort things through – its normal part of adolescent development. Yet many teenagers feel isolated, alone and have a sense that no one understands what they are going through at the time. The most important gift any parent can give a teen – Time, time to really listen and ask their teen how can they best support them through this – what do they need and work through in collaboration. Remember your teen is discovering how to be an adult?

Every emotion, every thought is OKAY – yes – even dark thoughts – such as self-harming or suicidal thoughts. For once we own a thought-feeling – emotion, at the point we have a choice on what we do or how we process it. The 1st part is to acknowledge and own what is being thought and felt – 2nd part is getting help to understand why we feel a particular way.

No matter a young persons/teens /adults age – Ownership of how we are feeling = the possibility of change.

Many teens may experience family conflict,  family separation/divorce, bullying, peer pressure, feelings of isolation, mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. For some teens, the struggles may go beyond normal adolescent development and affect their ability to function. This may lead to at-risk behaviours such as suicidal thoughts or actions, drinking, drug use or unsafe behaviours.

Building Emotional Resilience within Teenagers

Emotional resilience simply refers to one’s ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises – developing and building upon previous skills and learning new ones Creating and building life skills toolboxes is a collaborative approach in working with young people to build emotional resilience.

Issues many young people/teenagers experience. 

  • Peer pressure/friendship concerns
  • Bullying – face to face and social media
  • Sexuality
  • Peer pressure including rupture and repair in friendship circles
  • Relationship counselling
  • Separation and Divorce
  • Addiction -Alcohol, drugs and social media devices – internet
  • Isolation
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Self-harming
  • Emotional extremes – anger, sadness
  • Healing from unresolved trauma and abuse – emotional abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse.